Tribute to Stoney Bretz
Warning! This is
not a post about how to sew anything or any new sewing technique. No,
this article is about the loss of a dear friend and a sewing enthusiast. This morning (December 21, 2021) Stoney Bretz
passed away peacefully at her new residence with her husband, Donald, by her
side. She got her third diagnosis of
cancer about five months ago. Our
Wednesday morning sewing group was at her house when she received the
call. She took the news calmly as if it
were just a call about a routine visit with a doctor. I got a sinking feeling in my stomach. I knew that this time there might not be a
miracle. I went home with a deep sadness
in my heart. I was afraid this time
might be the last. She was already
having a lot of pain even before the diagnosis.
Stoney took the chemo and radiation treatments in stride
even though they were painful, especially the radiation. The pain never left her. Each time I talked with her on the phone, her
voice sounded weaker, and she sounded so tired.
I visited her at home a few times and each time I could see the weariness
and the toll of the pain.
Then she fell during the night and was taken to the hospital
via ambulance. I knew things were
getting bleaker. Then Stoney and Donald
were moved to a senior living apartment with care available for both of
them. I was relieved that they would receive
the care they needed, but I also knew things would never be the same for my
friend or for me either. Life changes!
This morning I went to visit Stoney. As my husband, her husband and I sat and
talked, Stoney quietly and peacefully slipped away. She escaped that horrible pain and went to
eternal peace!
Stoney had many friends in the local sewing community. She hosted three different sewing groups at
her home; providing sewing machines for everyone in the groups so they wouldn’t
have to transport their own machine for the meetings. She
shared a wealth of knowledge about quilting, sewing, and embroidery with all of
us in those groups. If someone needed
something they forgot to bring, Stoney could usually come up with it. I think I sewed with Stoney in these groups
for about twenty-five years. I enjoyed
all those years and thought they would continue forever. All good things really do come to an end
eventually!
Stoney was a member of the Lansing Clippers American Sewing Guild
and hosted meetings for the Embroidery Neighborhood Group at her home once a
month. She was also a member of a local
quilt guild and a painting guild. She
was always generous with her time and her talents. She taught many of us how to quilt and taught
others how to improve their sewing, quilting, and embroidery techniques.
Stoney Bretz has left this earth but will not be forgotten! May she rest in peace.
Judy